advantages of collaborative divorce

The advantages of a Collaborative Divorce include . . .

1. No Going to Court
Collaboration is done with everyone sitting at a table in a safe, respectful, comfortable, but business like atmosphere, where people can feel secure and take the time they need to express themselves and to find working solutions, rather than facing anxiety, having a limited opportunity to be heard, and incurring the legal expense associated with preparing and testifying before a Judge.

2. Opportunities For Lower Cost
The cost of a Collaborative Divorce is directly the product of the time each party spends with their attorney, and the parties and collaborative team spend working together, instead of being the product of lawyers writing letters to each other and the Court, hiring separate experts, exchanging faxes and e-mails with each other and the Court, preparing legal papers, motions, affidavits and the like and pursuing strategies which might not consider the other party’s needs, interests or priorities.

3. Protecting And Providing For Children
Collaboration focuses on the needs and best interests of children, seeking to minimize the impact of the divorce on them, rather than risk having the children used as financial and emotional surrogates for other issues.

4. The Time You Need
Collaboration gives you as much time as you need, to have your concerns and your interests heard and addressed, to be shown respect, to feel safe, and to understand and come to an agreement, even on difficult issues, rather than meeting a schedule set for the convenience of others.

5. Working As A Team
In Collaboration, while you each have a lawyer as your advocate, the lawyers work together as
part of a team, to find solutions that work for all concerned, instead of fighting each other.

6. A Facilitator At The Table
The Collaborative Team includes, a specially trained coach, who serves as a facilitator and
neutral, rather than a judge who has the power to decide issues with limited contact with the couple and their individual interests and circumstances.

7. Uses Neutral Experts
Collaborative Experts provide unbiased information and options when specialized expertise is needed, rather than each party hiring an “expert” and letting the experts fight-it-out at each spouse’s expense.

8. Greater Control
Collaboration is done with you. You get to control the time, subject matter, priorities, and solutions.  There is no agreement until you and your partner agree, instead of coping with Court imposed deadlines that can force you into poorly considered compromises that don’t really resolve issues and can lead to further litigation.

9. Customized Outcomes
Collaborative Separation and Settlement Agreements provide you with greater flexibility and opportunity for customized solutions.   Agreements that are tailor-made specifically for your circumstances, with less reliance on a set of the usual boiler-plate terms and conditions that are so commonly used whether or not they apply to a specific family’s situation.

10. Solutions For The Future
The Collaborative team keeps the focus on providing for the parties’ futures, where they are going to live the rest of their lives, rather than trying to gain negotiating advantage from the conflicts and disappointments of the past.

11. Builds Skills You Can Use
The Collaborative team practices listening and conflict management skills with you, which can be used to enhance the health and success of your future relationships, instead of focusing entirely on dividing the products of the relationship and the specifics of the parties’ relationship after the divorce.

12. Keeps You Out Of Court In The Future
The Collaborative team continues to be available to work with you if issues develop after the divorce or separation, rather than turning to litigation with all that entails.