Concerns For The Welfare Of Children Are Respected

Several studies have reported that the worst thing for children is not the process of divorce or the divided nature of family after a divorce, but the hurt, angry, combative environment that often exists while couples suffer in a broken marriage.

Parents’ concern for their children often keeps them together long after the marriage relationship has ended. However, it is rare today for children not to have friends who’s parents are divorced, or for there not to be a club in school for the children of divorced couples.

The Collaborative Divorce process gives parents the opportunity to address the needs of their children in a setting where both parents can be heard, where the concerns of each party about the welfare of the children are respected, and where the parties have the opportunity to work together in the interest of the children, rather than fight one another to protect their separate interests. The concerns about children are typically focused in two areas; time and money. Who will have what time with the children, and how will the needs of the children be met within the available financial resources.

The Collaborative process affords parents the time, and professional resources to develop practical, workable solutions to the time and money issues, beyond the application of formulas to the most important and intimate of relationships, the raising of children. In circumstances where there are special needs, health issues, cultural diversity, and complex family relationships, the Collaborative process can offer opportunities for greater comfort and development of strategies for meeting the key needs of the parties and the children.

The Collaborative process, with its focus on listening and mutual respect, as opposed to contest and combat, can enable the parties to maintain largely normal parenting relationships, while dealing with the weighty emotional and financial issues of divorce, thereby protecting the children from excessive trauma.

Finally, the Collaborative Process can overcome one of the most destructive forces between parents: assumptions. By encouraging frank open discussion, couples are encouraged to express their concerns about such things as, the role and relationship of the girlfriend or boyfriend, the financial needs of the children, issues of post-divorce control and influence over the other parent. This provides for more accurate and longer lasting parenting plans, rooted in confidence and facts rather than unstated assumptions.